Posted by: empoweryourlife | October 29, 2008

Executive Life Coach –

How Do you React?

We have all come across dominant personalities: you may be one! People who take control in social situations, making it quite clear to all how they are feeling, what they want to do, and how they want things done. They are undoubtedly times when this is exactly what is needed, and dominant people make efficient organizers. On the other hand, there are times when this hard-nosed approach tramples over other people feeling and wishes, and then dominant people can seem overbearing, argumentative, and difficult.

What about deferential personalities? These are easy going people, who usually agree with everyone to avoid tension or conflict, even if it means suppressing what they really think. They are consummate co-operators accommodating individual differences selflessly.

Deferential types are pleasant and easy to be around, and put others before themselves. However all this altruism can be a bit wearing when you need an honest opinion, or when a confrontation is unavoidable?

Dominant or deferential behaviour is often developed in childhood as a result of parenting styles or sibling rivalry. As a result, a third personality style is often taught in personal development workshops or management training courses: assertiveness. Assertive behaviour is that which clearly conveys what you want, while at the same time recognising and respecting the rights of others. Assertive individuals tend to achieve much more in the long run, both personally and professionally.

If you want to find out how you can deal with situations better, no matter what traits you have contact us on 0845 194 9644 or email us on

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